Being upset by the loss of hair or changes in physical appearance is not vanity. The physical appearance changes brought about by cancer are extremely powerful. Chemotherapy or radiation can cause hair loss which can dramatically alter your physical appearance. For many patients, this is the straw that breaks the camel’s back because it becomes the tangible sign that cancer has significantly changed them. The crying represents the sadness about the many losses that have come with the cancer experience. It is important to acknowledge the loss and allow yourself to grieve. There are also many things you can do to improve your physical appearance that will get you through this difficult time. Check out the section under Reflections to identify some of the solutions. Attend a “Look Good, Feel Better” program co-sponsored with the American Cancer Society in your area. Reflections Boutique offers many resources of wigs, hats, and scarves that can assist you during this temporary and difficult time. Join a support group or talk to a professional about your feeling of loss. But whatever you do, don’t criticize yourself for being shallow or vain because you feel upset! You have a right to feel upset!